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Written by a former Navy pilot and good dad.

A Navy vet explains why he taught his daughter how to put up a fight.

Editor's Note: This article by Team Rubicon COO Ken Harbaugh was originally published on Fatherly, a digital lifestyle guide for men entering parenthood.


You are approaching that age now, when you look around and see how other dads raised their daughters. You are noticing that I did things differently, that you are not like other little girls, the ones who never leave home without a ribbon in their hair. You are brave and curious and are beginning to realize that these qualities are not accidents. I want to explain why, because it will help you understand the way you are.

I taught you how to punch. Not because you should grow up fighting, but because, if ever forced to, you should know how. I once saw a little girl in Afghanistan who had acid thrown in her face because she wanted to go to school. You are not yet ready to know what some people do to each other, but I want you to be prepared. You will grow stronger every day, and the moment will come when you will fight for those who cannot fight for themselves.

I have nurtured your curiosity. When we found the spider under our orange tree with the red hourglass on her belly, we did not kill her. We watched, night after night, as she tended her web and waited patiently. We read books about her and told jokes about how she ate her boyfriends for lunch. And when she finally caught a beetle, we watched her strike and wrap it tight with silk. You found that the things that scare most little girls have the most to teach us.

I taught you to respect nature, to hunt, and to fish. Not for the sake of killing, but because the surest way to honor the living earth is to be part of it. You dug for worms and baited your own hooks, and most of the time we cooked what we caught. We raised chickens together and loved them and ate the eggs they laid and offered thanks. You know and love the world that sustains us, and you understand that meat does not grow on grocery store shelves inside plastic wrapping.
I allowed you to test your limits. When we surfed together, you paddled toward the outside break, even as the big waves kept pushing you back. You fought, and failed, but not really. We rode in, side by side, determined to try and try again until we owned the sea. Someday we will catch that giant storm-driven wave and the crowd on the beach will rise to its feet and marvel at the little girl riding down the mountain of water.

I taught you these things because one day I will let you go. You will walk down a long aisle to start another life and another family. You will be perfect and beautiful. But no one will mistake that beauty for fragility. You will fight for others while seeking new wonders. You will run barefoot through snow while exalting all of creation. You will live life to its fullest, testing your own limits while obliterating those set by others.

Until then, be proud of who you are. Never let anyone tell you what a woman can and cannot do. And should someone make fun of how little girls hit, offer to teach them. Smile politely, square your stance, and give fair warning. Then knock the effing wind out of them. Because that is how a girl should punch.

This article, "Why I taught my daughter how to punch," originally appeared on Fatherly.

http://taskandpurpose.com/why-i-taught-my-daughter-how-to-throw-a-punch/
 

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Love it. I teach my daughter everything I can...I want her to be a self reliant woman.

We just moved 3 weeks ago, when the movers brought our table in, it was in two pieces....the top needed to be bolted to the base. I told her what needed to be done, gave her the tools and walked away to grab more stuff. One of the movers stood there slack-jawed watching a 15 year old girl bolt a dining room table together.
 

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Love it...and that's why my daughter is a Black Belt and studying Shorin Ryu since she was 5.
 
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We are raising a self-rescuing princess!
 
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Well written indeed. Boxing or martial arts training should be mandatory for kids. The confidence, discipline, and respect gained from it transcends all aspects of life. Also the "bully" population will decrease astronomically! ;-)
 

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Wonderful read. I was especially touched that he taught her to respect nature and God's creatures. Very sweet. As far as the knock-out skills, that made me laugh. Good job Dad.

Growing up with three brothers taught me well but thank goodness I've never needed to use what I learned
 
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